How often do we hear about trying to achieve work-life balance? I’ve said it many times myself, in fact it was once part of my organization’s values. Now, I call it a deceptive word. I even go so far to call it a dirty word for it brings about expectations that are impossible to maintain.
When we think of balance we think of a 50/50 split. What I’ve realized is that work/life is never 50/50. Depending on what’s going on you could be working more one day due to a project, or have the need to focus on personal items another day because of a family event. The priority of the moment will dictate the percentage of time you spend on your work/life needs.
When I was trying to achieve a 50/50 balance I was actually setting myself up for failure. If I wasn’t in balance I was judging myself for ‘failing’ to achieve this 50/50 split. That’s a lot of pressure to hold myself accountable to. What I now realize is it’s not about balance, but about seeking work-life harmony instead.
Harmony is a pleasing arrangement of parts and internal calm. When I view my activity through the lens of harmony I feel good about what I’m doing. I may be busy with my work activities but I’m in harmony with it. Because I’m not judging myself all the time, I can easily switch from a work mode to a personal mode without a single negative thought. Because when I focus on my life, it’s in harmony. When I focus on my work, it’s also in harmony.
There are many ways to achieve work-life harmony, but I recommend these 3 things you can do today to start living harmoniously.
Stop searching for balance and start living harmoniously. This simple shift will alleviate the pressure to be perfect, will stop your self-judgement and allow you to enjoy the moment, whichever moment it may be, without guilt. Do this and life will feel easier and harmonious…I promise!
“He who lives in harmony with himself lives in harmony with the universe.”~ Marcus Aurelius
Originally published at www.cornerstonedynamics.com