Life is HARD.
Life is full of twists and turns.
Upset, unforeseen changes.
A balancing act of work life, family life, YOUR life.
Trying to please everyone on the outside, when the only person that’s not happy and screaming on the inside is YOU.
Life can be miserable, it can feel like an uphill struggle a battle, like a constant juggle and no matter how hard you try it’s all still slipping away somehow and somewhere.
Have you ever felt like this?
I know I have.
At the age of 11, my life took a sudden change in direction, a direction that I am now so grateful for. I became a young carer for my mum.
She was diagnosed with Manic Bipolar Depression and Schizophrenia and it soon became my ‘norm’ to come home from school to find her on the floor after having taken an overdose. This happened year after year until some form of balance came from the medication and the episodes became less frequent. I was in my early twenties when we were able to start building some form of a mother-daughter relationship again, the RIGHT way around this time!
I had always been an anxious person, a person that needed to control everything, and a person who feared being left, a person who feared rejection a person who feared she wasn’t loved. I could never understand why I felt the way I did. All I knew is it was HARD WORK. This was a lot to battle with from a young age and certainly added to the complexity of adulthood.
At the age of 25, I started to build my life, I met a man, I fell in love, I moved away, I finally fell on my feet. BUT, I entered that relationship with so many behavioural templates, limiting beliefs and negative thoughts, that just because I’d found love it didn’t mean it was going to be plain sailing. I had some huge insecurities going on, that made everything so much harder! As time went on life did seem to settle a little, I was in a better place, mum was coming up to stay and things started to feel NORMAL.
At 26, I fell pregnant. At the age of 26, my mum passed away unexpectedly.
Two life-changing experiences that should never happen at the same time.
I had two weeks off whilst 5 months pregnant, to organise my mum’s funeral, empty her flat (with the help of some incredible people) fight a case against the hospital for neglect, to only return back to work feeling like my soul had been removed.
Every demon I had, came flooding back with a vengeance plus a few more, to say the least.
I tried so hard to cope, but it got to the point that my anxiety was so bad, I couldn’t pick up my phone at work. I spent my mornings crying before I went, and I’d spend any chance I could in the bathroom crying at work too.
It got so bad that I started to have panic attacks every morning, I had to do something about it. I decided to go to the Doctors and they ended up signing me off until my maternity leave started, it’s safe to say I sobbed my way out of the doctors feeling sheer utter relief.
SO many people told me that things would become easier the sooner I got back into my routine, but I’d had no time to take it all in, I needed some time to get to grips with everything, so I gave myself that time. losing your mother isn’t ever something that leaves you but you learn to make it a new normal I suppose.
The due date was creeping up on us so quickly and it was really important for me to be in a good place for the arrival of my son, I needed to get rid of all these demons once and for all so I could be the best mother and partner I could be.
The arrival of my son was MY fresh start, a new beginning, a chance to choose MY path for once.
I was going to be the creator of the life I’d always wanted.
That decision on that day has not only given me the opportunity to share this story with you but be in a position where I can change women’s lives all over the world for the better.
So, what changed my life??
I’d looked into various therapies and Hypnotherapy resonated with me the most. It didn’t dwell on the past, it focused on building a positive future while helping me deal with all the ‘stuff’ in my head that certainly wasn’t serving me anymore.
I’d been able to make a significant change in a relatively short period of time. It was INCREDIBLE.
I was able to see things clearly for the first time in my life, I was positive, I slept better, I wasn’t obsessive anymore, I wasn’t fearful, I had an unshakeable confidence, I was living life just how I should be!
It was such a powerful experience.
So, powerful that I then decided to invest in training and I studied to become a Clinical Hypnotherapist and Psychotherapist. I knew that If this mindset coaching & therapy could go that deep and change such deep-rooted issues, that had caused me so much pain and resistance for so many years, the change that I could help women with whether it be deep-rooted issues, or issues such as motivation, confidence, limiting beliefs, self-sabotage, would be incredibly LIFE CHANGING – because not only did I have the expertise I also had a wealth of personal experience.
Creating FREEDOM, INDEPENDENCE, FULFILMENT & HAPPINESS for a life you deserve is incredibly important to me and living a life where you are the BEST VERSION OF YOU is incredibly important to me.
I now live a life as a calm mum, as a loving partner, as a successful entrepreneur free from negativity, free from limiting beliefs, free from anything that would have held me back.
I am no privileged to be able to work with women all over the world to help them create a life they can only dream of by helping them achieve sustained happiness, confidence, motivation, clarity, focus and so much more.
Why? Because Life is hard and it’s my mission to help change the lives of women for the better, so we can do more, be more and have more.