As I Stopped Trying To Fix Everything, Everything Got Better

How being attentive and present is more than listening with your ears.

How Being Attentive and Present is More Than Listening With Your Ears.

The words being cried were that he didn’t want to go to school. We were making negative progress in our quest to get ready.

My son’s sensory sensitivity is off the charts. (read about: Asperger’s)

I wasn’t listening.

Typically, I would either ignore the complaint or do the opposite and try to solve the stated issue. Usually I was wrong.

I decided to listen. Not with my ears. But with my heart, my intuition, my soul.

Then I could hear / then I heard him.

What he really was saying was that he wants to make his clothes feel right so he can be comfortable in school.

Imagine if we would listen to our clients, to our customers, to our families with more than just our ears??

Listen with Purpose

Listening the right way is about focus. You take the focus off of yourself and put it where it belongs, on the other person.

When you start to focus on them, when you truly focus — you stop listening to only what you hear — you begin to feel what they are saying.

Listening is paying attention.

Listening is remembering.

Listening is knowing.

Listening is sensing.


Listening is feeling.

Once you hear, you must act. Action is proof of listening. Action shows commitment and respect.

Once we listen to our clients, we must act. Act on what you hear.

Actions get noticed. Actions build trust.

Take action and build better relationships.

Bringing it All Together

Actions of trust build businesses.

Once we listen we learn. We understand. We feel.

Each moment of our life influences the next. The more we are present, the more we truly listen, the better our life will be.

The more we listen, the more we can help others.

While life is not always about the destination, we did make it to school (on-time even).

Originally published at https://www.linkedin.com on May 4, 2017.

Originally published at medium.com

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