“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves to be seen.”
– Brené Brown
Are you one of those people who hold themselves back in life? If so, you aren’t alone. In fact, most us are doing just that. We spend living our life thinking that this isn’t it. Like there is something much better coming someday. We believe that one day everything will magically turn for the better and then, only then, we’ll finally start living fully.
By resisting what is, we make sure that we subconsciously sabotage ourselves. Secretly waiting for something better to come along make us live an average life rather. We sink deeper into wishful thinking, complaining, and blaming others.
When we wait for things to turn out better by themselves – living like the life happens TO us instead of FOR us – we inevitably ignore opportunities at present. We also become blind to our intuition and gut feelings when something is off.
Thinking that someday or someone will solve our problems make us not to show up for our life. Since this thinking offers us an ever-present backdoor to the land of “one day.” Therefore we don’t have to engage ourselves fully in the present moment. We wait for a salary increase, for an ideal partner, for a better economic situation, bigger house, for children to grow up, for taking a long holiday one day.
Therefore, we create many excuses why we don’t have to show up fully for ourselves now. There is always some reason which holds us back. But what if is it you who is holding yourself back?
But what if is it you who is holding yourself back?
When we want something really bad but we believe that we cannot have it, some of us tend to withdraw from the situation (or person). We think that what we want cannot happen because of XYZ, and therefore, we don’t show up fully.
We don’t immerse ourselves completely. Instead, our mind is always working against us, offering us the reasons why we cannot achieve. This creates a conflict between the heart and mind and many of us choose to listen to the mind.
The mind tells us that we cannot have what we want because we don’t have enough money, we aren’t as good as Tim, or that our partner doesn’t love us. Little by little, all these thoughts undermine our confidence, and we sabotage our dreams in one way or another.
When you think that you cannot achieve something, then you tend to withdraw from the situation, and as a result, you’ll not achieve it or at least not the full extent of what you’ve desired.
Giving up is like a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you don’t show up fully for your life, you can be almost sure that the result that you want won’t come. Or at least not to such a degree that you’d like to.
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“The point of power is always in the present moment.” – Louise L. Hay
Originally published at sylviasalow.com