Are You An Unintentional Diminisher?

We either feed the fire or let it go out.

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People are born with a burning fire; a desire to explore and learn. Exploration leads to discovery. Discovery increases capabilities. Discovery is exciting. Excitement is motivating. Before we know it, we can do things we never dreamed of doing. Discovery gives us a new perspective. It increases our confidence. It makes us more willing to step up and try. 

That is until someone we respect tells us we can’t (in words or in actions). When we’re told we can’t, it casts a paralyzing shadow of doubt over us. Doubt is an insidious diminisher. Once it gets in, it grows. 

Doubt tells us we shouldn’t even try. Doubt extinguishes possibility. It makes us less than we would have been, had we only believed.

When someone believes in us, we become fortified against doubt. Our resolve is strengthened. It feeds our fire and inspires us to become more—amplifying our capabilities.

And belief brings ownership. Ownership leads to increased effort, learning, and skill-building. Ownership stretches us. 

This is the power we each wield—to diminish or amplify. To doubt or believe. 

Each of us is capable of becoming more. If we choose to believe.

Do you believe?

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