Are Labels Holding You Back?

The only one powerful enough to stop you is you.

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The only one powerful enough to stop you is you. You create the stops and barriers in your life with the labels and definitions you give yourself. It is the labels we put on ourselves that create all the energetic walls in our lives that we cannot go beyond. It’s also how we maintain our comfort zone, rather than adventuring out to try something new.  

When I first graduated from chiropractic school, I took a job working with the chiropractor who had been my doctor since I was a teenager. I worked there for 3 months and knew it wasn’t for me. His office was great. He was great. And I was miserable. I didn’t want to see the same white wall of my office every day. I wanted to travel and see the world. I wanted to be more active with facilitating the Access Consciousness® classes. But that wasn’t going to happen as an associate chiropractor. I need to be at the office at least 5 days a week.  

So, I started contemplating quitting and working for myself and that was when I came face to face with all the labels I had. I didn’t know how to run a business. I didn’t know anything about business. I wasn’t creative. You have to be creative to be an entrepreneur, or so I thought. I didn’t know how to get clients. I am not capable enough. I won’t be successful. Every sentence was I didn’t know, I didn’t have, or I am not. I was stuck. I was miserable at the office, but I was also totally uncomfortable with the choice to quit and leave behind the security of a well-paying job for what I really wanted to do.  

It took me 2 more months to work up the courage to give my notice. I don’t do misery well.  And I figured I would rather fail and fall flat on my face than be miserable. So, I told my boss that I was quitting, which was one of the most uncomfortable things I have done. The only thing more uncomfortable was living with the choice afterwards. What 25-year-old with little money in the bank and student loans quits a good paying job? I had just broken out of my comfort zone and many of the labels I had put on myself in a big way. The only good thing was I had to get to work, so I couldn’t spend too much time focusing on how uncomfortable I was. 

I have spent the past seven years creating my business and it has been an adventure! Here are some of the tools I learned to use when I would come up against labels and barriers. 

  • The only one powerful enough to stop you is you. Knowing this helped me tremendously. Every time I would hit a wall, I knew I was the one creating it. And if I created it, I can uncreate it. 
  • When I would hit the walls, I would ask questions to open up a different possibility. If I know not this, what else would be possible? What else is possible beyond this? How does it get any better than this?
  • Uncomfortable isn’t wrong. It is a new possibility. It is change. Enjoy it. Embrace it.  
  • Choice. If you would really like to choose something, then choose it.  You will always have an excuse if you need one. Sometimes there is no amount of coaching or facilitating that can get you there, you have to choose to walk through the door!
  • Never quit. Never give in. If there is something you truly want to do, do it and keep going. Do whatever it takes. And remember #1. 

Dr. Andrew Gardella is chiropractor who has worked as an Access Consciousness since 2011. He graduated from school Magna Cum Laude with BAs in Biology, Psychology, Cognitive Science and then received a Doctor of Chiropractic from Palmer College of Chiropractic. Dr. Andrew is a certified practitioner of BodyTalk and an Access Consciousness facilitator. He facilitates Right Voice for You classes, a specialty program of Access Consciousness. He helps people to be the version of themselves they want to be. Follow him on Twitter at @RightVoiceForU.

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