An Argument Makes Me Immobile

Who would guess that there would be a direct reason for my back pain?

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Last Sunday I woke up with intense mid (thoracic) back pain. I could hardly move around. I managed to brush my teeth and have breakfast, but I couldn’t get off the sofa. I would ask a family member to pull me off.

I walked around in my pyjamas with uncombed hair and my sister sorted out the lunch and house. I certainly didn’t feel like a health coach.

Hmm, okay, how did this happen? I was asked things like, “Did you sleep funny?”, “Have you pulled a muscle?” For a while even I was fooled into thinking that I might have sneezed so hard, as both my back and chest were hurting. Taking deep breaths was painful.

I allowed myself to be human; you know taking in the sympathy, resting, etc… Then I tried a bit of tapping (EFT). No change in pain this time. Then I tried some meditation. Little relief.

Then straining, I opened up my Lifestyle Prescriptions charts to see what the “conflict theme” for thoracic pain was. It was “feeling humiliated / defeated”. Oh yes, I could think of a recent event, just a couple of weeks’ ago. I worked on that one. I processed my feelings and found a better outcome. I thought I had dealt with this situation, but subconsciously, it affected me more than I thought.

The pain immediately went down from an 8 to a 4, with 10 being unbearable and 0 not there. I could at least move around and go about my day. I even went out in the evening. As predicated in META-Health, my pain would increase again in the evening and it did. By the next day it was 80% cleared and gone completely in 3 days.

I didn’t get wrapped up in the whole story of something being wrong with my back. This can be a big mistake and those with chronic pain will experience this. Once I stop bending, “babying” my back, stop picking up heavy items, I will make it worse, not better. This has been cited many times in medical studies, which states that rest should only be for a short period. Act normal as quickly as you can.

You see, working with conflict themes means that we can work more accurately with the needs of the body, with much less guessing. When I was first told this, I wasn’t sure if it was 100% true. However, it’s working like this that gets me really good results. In fact, you don’t always need to find the actual conflict theme; just tune into your body and find the trauma.

So now we have tons of experiential evidence that trauma is causing so many of our symptoms, way more than generally known. We don’t have to see ourselves as broken and hopeless. This is the reason why I refuse to believe in limits. It can take time. It can even be hard, yes. Impossible? No. Personally, I hate the phrase, “There is no cure”. If you stay with the person: what they’re going through; their feelings; their pain; their thoughts; show them how to make DIRECT connections with their symptoms and their experiences, they can go onto spontaneous healing, like I did on Sunday.

Better than fighting our symptoms, being afraid and wanting them to go away, it’s way more beneficial to see them as signposts. They are not supposed to be mistakes.

Happy healing!!

Details of my chronic illness online course click HERE


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