The number of rejections that JK Rowling received before Harry Potter got accepted.
The number of investors who said no to Howard Schultz’s Starbucks pitches.
Brian Chesky, co-founder of Airbnb published the 7 rejections he received on Medium. You always hear, “It’s not how many times you’ve fallen, but how many times you get back up.”
But getting back up is hard. I personally can’t imagine failing 217 times in a row. Neither did Jia Jing. But he understood he had to be comfortable with rejection if he ever made it as an entrepreneur, and so he started the 100 Days of Rejection challenge and chronicled it on a website and youtube channel.
In the Last Lecture, Randy Pausch made famous the line, “The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”
So what other changes to your mindset would help amp up your bounce-(up-to-your-feet)-ability factor…?
I’ve mentioned this before here so I won’t delve deep into that.
2. Bounce up smarter.
Don’t take your trip to the floor for granted. Extract the learning lesson from it and bounce back up smarter. Einstein said madness was repeating the same thing over and over again expecting different results. Though I disagree with it, because sometimes the same thing does work because of a different opportunity that showed up at a later time, but a lot of times it’s better to bounce up smarter, armed with the knowledge gained when you were hugging the floor.
3. Remind yourself it has happened before and you rose from the ashes like a phoenix.
Of course this has to have happened for you to remind yourself in the first place. Basically, put yourself in a situation where you’ve failed multiple times and then succeeded, and use that memory as your go-to mental place whenever you’re faced with failure.
4. Ground yourself to your values.
Ask yourself, why are you doing this? What values are you living by engaging in this task over and over again. My main value for sharing things even when I know nobody’s probably going to read is linked to “Given everything you have, and a little bit more.” Maybe one person is going to read this blog, and it would make a tiny change in their life. If not, then it’s okay, because I’m also living up my work ethic value. Grounding yourself to your values helps you put one step in front of the others. So what are your values?
5. Shout plot twist.
It’s well known that the parts in life that don’t go as planned make the best stories. At some point maybe you’re going to laugh at what happened, so why not laugh now.
Remember that resilience is like a muscle, and it’s built one hard step at a time. So don’t be afraid to take that step.
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Originally published at medium.com