Always remind yourself of WHY you’re doing what you’re doing, with Joe Barksdale

Joseph Barksdale is from Detroit Michigan. He is a professional athlete, a professional musician, husband and father. His ultimate goal in…

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Joseph Barksdale is from Detroit Michigan. He is a professional athlete, a professional musician, husband and father. His ultimate goal in life is to spread love through his music. His musical weapon of choice is one of two one off Fender custom shop ’69 Stratocasters hand crafted by the great Fender Master Builder John Cruz.

What are your hobbies, favorite places to visit, pet peeves?

· Hobbies: Reading, playing my Fender Custom Shop guitars, and cultivating a healthy lifestyle through daily exercise, yoga, meditation, etc.

· Favorite Places to Visit: The Stage, The Fender Factory in Corona, CA, movie theater, my daughter’s playroom, Chicago, New York, Las Vegas. Any fun city with something to do, especially shows to attend. And anywhere that music is happening.

· Pet Peeves: Rudeness, excuses, negativity, tardiness, lying, know it all’s.

Can you tell us something about you that few people know?

○ I have a four-octave vocal range

○ I’m a Fender artist

○ I’m going to be one of the premier guitarists and musicians of my generation when it’s all said and done.

Do you have any exciting projects going on right now?

“I will be working with Narada Michael Walden to record an EP later this fall that will be released next year. I’m currently working with Larry Mitchell to enhance my guitar skills, and I’m also working on a series of projects and events with Fender.”

Many people say success correlates with the people you meet in your life. Can you describe two that most impacted your success and why.

“Charleston Fobbs, without him I wouldn’t be in the NFL today.”

“Brionna Blackwell, always being there for me and never being afraid to tell me the truth.”

Leaders always seem to find ways to overcome their weaknesses. Can you share one or two examples of how you work outside of your comfort zone to achieve success?

“I’m really shy and I step outside of my comfort zone to play my music

“Growing up and not knowing anything about nutrition, I was very overweight which led to childhood self-esteem issues. I stepped out of my comfort zone in learning more about healthy eating habits and what would work for me to get the body type I wanted.”

The concept of mind over matter has been around for years. A contemporary description of this is having mental toughness. Can you give us an example (or two) of obstacles you’ve overcome by getting your mind in the right place (some might call this reframing the situation)?

“Charleston Fobbs, the coach I mentioned above who helped me reach my dreams of being in the NFL, tragically died in a car accident the Thursday prior to my first NFL start at right tackle against the Dallas Cowboys.

“In that moment I was able to remind myself that Fobbs would want me to go out there and play my best and was able to dedicate that game to him.”

“After the release of my first album, I was extremely disappointed with how things turned out. The price of the album came out to more than I was quoted (pet peeve mentioned above) and the person I was working with had my expectations very high.

“When things didn’t pan out the way I thought they would, I wanted to quit music altogether. Instead, I decided to reach out to other mentors and see how I could get back on track, as opposed to giving up.”

What are your “3 Lessons I Learned from My Most Memorable Failure”?

  1. Life Goes On.
  2. There’s beauty in the struggle.
  3. Everything happens for a reason.

What unfiltered advice can you give aspiring stars regarding how to avoid common mis-fires in starting their career?

  1. Make sure you keep someone around you that is going to tell you the truth and not just what you want to hear.
  2. Remind yourself of why you’re doing what you’re doing often.
  3. You can’t give a FUCK about what others think.
  4. Always be yourself. It’s cool to have heroes and be inspired by someone, but you don’t have to be a clone of that person.

What is one “efficiency hack” you use consistently in your life to keep your time and mind free to focus on your strengths and passions?

“Meditation and prayer”

All actors, musicians or athletes have sleepless nights. We have a term we use with our clients called the “2 a.m. moment.” It’s when you’re wide awake and thinking not-so-positive thoughts about your business choices and future. Can you describe a 2 a.m. moment (or moments) you’ve had and how you overcame the challenges?

“My 2 a.m. moment came in 2015 during free agency.

“I was coming off of a great season as the starting Right Tackle for the then St. Louis Rams, and was expecting my big pay day.

“My wedding was in March of the same year and the plan was to sign a deal before my wedding, so that I would be able to have a plan for my future family.

“Long story short, that deal didn’t come until May of 2015, as a one-year ‘prove it’ deal. I re-evaluated the people I had around me during that time, fired everyone, played my ass off and started fresh in 2016.”

Nobody likes to fail, and we sure don’t like to admit we failed. Can you describe a moment when you confided your most closely-held business issues/problems to someone close to you, and how the conversation(s) helped you work through the issue?

“I’ll start with life goes on.

“Prior to Fobbs dying in 2013, we had discussed firing my current agent for various reasons. Well, when he passed, it became something I put on the backburner as I had to focus on performing on the field as well as taking care of things he once took care of for me.

“When I hit free agency in 2015 I still had that agent and confided in a teammate about my gut feeling that something wasn’t right.

“He, and a few other people that were close to me, were able to keep it real with me and let me know that I needed to make some changes in order to get accomplished what I was trying to get accomplished at the time.”

What’s on the drawing board for your next venture?

“Another EP, working on a Fender Custom Shop Guitar, continuing to work with Larry to enhance my guitar skills, and looking to book 2019 festivals during the NFL offseason

“My second child is arriving in July of 2018; — shout out to my first-born Kennedy!”

What did we miss? Feel free to share any other thoughts or advice on overcoming failure, initiatives you’re currently supporting, any other relevant information you would like to share with the readers.

“One thing I always emphasize now is the importance of taking care of yourself and your mental health. It took me a LONG time to get to a point where I put my mental health above other things and I can honestly say that it has helped me grow leaps and bounds as an individual and performance-wise.

“We need more love and togetherness in our society today. It’s ok to be nice to others and have no ulterior motives. We gotta live together.

“Come check me out at NAAM. I’ll be at the Fender booth demoing guitars. I may even have a performance.

What is the best way our readers can follow you on social media?

Instagram: @Jbdale72

Twitter: @Jbdale72




Thanks for joining us, Joe!

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