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Actress Jamie Noel: “I would love to start a community of people who have experienced severe trauma that are working on living in the present.”

I would love to start a community of people who have experienced severe trauma that are working on living in the present. I know this sounds generic. However, I feel like being a victim is such a shameful process. The discussions about it are taboo. Only victims can really understand other victims. Also, biology in […]


I would love to start a community of people who have experienced severe trauma that are working on living in the present. I know this sounds generic. However, I feel like being a victim is such a shameful process. The discussions about it are taboo. Only victims can really understand other victims. Also, biology in general is not on the side of the victim. Serve trauma literally rewires the brain and its neuropathways. Anything small relating to the trauma can trigger a full blown panic attack. Furthermore, the whole me too movement has just begun. People are just becoming okay with being victims. I would love to inspire people to move past a victim into the survivor. I’ve also noticed in my support groups most members cannot get past the initial trauma. They completely freeze up. They stop dating. They stop loving. They stop trying. I have been there forcing my feet just to hit the ground in the morning. Trust me, sometimes I think about the time my car almost got ran off the road. I was driving on the highway when I was unexpectantly blinded by some sort of white substance thrown on my windshield while a car was swerving into my lane, my phone was hacked shutting on and off by itself telling me it was logged into another location, and my ex was messaging me to call him — — every once in a while I think of this. Was this a death experience? Maybe. Was this traumatizing? Yes. But since the mishap, I’ve driven over 10,000 highway miles. Instead of going over the trauma again and again when I get in the car I try and stay present. I simply focus on what’s directly in front of me at that very second in time. Being able to drive again without thinking of being driven off the road taught me how to get my power back. In the present moment is where the power lies. Trauma in itself can become a recording that plays over and over again in your head. But is recording the current reality? No. Driving again is what inspired me to come up with this philosophy. Why not start a movement for trauma victims to focus on the road ahead? Its where the future lies if you are blessed enough to get there.


I had the pleasure of interviewing actress and producer Jamie Noel

Thank you so much for joining us! What is your “backstory”?

I’m originally from Miami and moved to Los Angeles six years ago to become a movie production manager and online live steamer. For fun I also own a boutique vacation rental company that operates in two countries. In 2016, I met a very charming man and dated him for a year until finding out he was running a multi-billion-dollar money laundering ring. Shortly after discovering the severity of the crimes he was involved with and him becoming an informant, I packed a bag and fled the country leaving my entire life behind. After the breakup, he started terrorizing me with everything from hacking my phone and sending back nude photos of myself, constantly texting me from online numbers, making up new social media accounts and direct messaging me thousands of times, and even hiring people to follow and scare new men I was dating. Through my collected cell phone data, he knew about everything I was doing and everyone I was interacting with.

Can you share your story and reason why you are making it public?

In all honestly, I don’t want any person in the entire universe to ever feel the sheer amount of terror I experienced while dating a career criminal. I want for other people to be aware, yet not afraid, when getting romantically involved with someone. If just one person can walk away from a dangerous relationship and change the future after reading this, then I have done my duty.

What would you advise to other women who begin to experience such signs when dating?

Drop all weapons of engagement and run as far away as possible never looking back or saying one word. Do not put any energy into anything to do with people who are on the cluster B personality spectrum. In my particular circumstance, my ex is a sociopath. He actually enjoyed committing crimes and had no morals for the pain his actions might inflict on other people’s lives. Sociopaths are flames of fire that need victim oxygen to feed them. Without any of normal human emotional reactions they burn out and move on. This is why it’s so imperative to not react at all. Also, since this type of personality disorder is huge on revenge and inflicting hurt on others, you have to get guile about what your future moves will be and always think one step ahead. Change everything that could relate to the way they could harm you as retaliation for abandoning them. For example, let’s say your significant other is a crazy boundary crossing mortgage broker ripping off the senile for the thrill of it… when you decide to exit the relationship you should probably find a way to put an alert on your credit report for that loan he was going to issue under your name.

Is there a person that made a profound impact on your life to seek change or help? Can you share a story?

It took a village to inspire me to move in a direction of change because of how catastrophic this was to everything I knew. It’s almost like asking someone who was on life support who saved their life. Most likely the entire hospital chipped in a helping hand. I am full of endless gratitude for all of the help I have received. I would have to say the upmost respect to Safe Nest for its strategic thinking specifically Sarah was an excellent case worker that drafted a step by step emergency plan of execution that I’m still in the process of completing so that I can protect myself. Also, my therapist Jackie has been great in encouraging me not freezing up process of PTSD. My mentor and beloved friend Roberta has been an excellent pillar of strength to keep going. My friend and employee Andrea was there for me grabbing copies of my files in the event I was injured due to threats I was getting. Both of my strong grandmothers kept encouraging me when I wanted to completely give up on my life, my best friend Alyssa for answering my frantic calls at all hours of the night, and my dad for simply hugging me when he couldn’t do anything to stop all of the stalking. The only reason I am a survivor is because I surrounded myself with love and support. There is much to be said with strength in community during unfortunate events.

Are you working on any meaningful or exciting nonprofit projects to help cases like yours?

I’m still in the process of taking things day by day and haven’t been able to see past the horizon. However, I do know the ramifications of being a victim of stalking and how expensive it can get. I am at $50,000 in damages in a year and I’m pretty sure I’m not the first woman that has been terrorized by a successful offender who has lapped the globe trying to get away from the possibility of being murdered. Running from stalking, especially if the person still unlimited resources hidden in places, is expensive. Not only is financially draining but its also physically and mentally exhausting. Being able to take the burden of finances off of victims hands would be extremely helpful. Stalking can also go on for months and who knows if or when it will ever stop. I’ve experienced first-hand seeing my savings account plummet to zero given enough time. Also, being a victim of stalking requires not having a schedule which is not conducive to being a productive member of society. For example, simply going to work. If you can’t go to work, then how can you cover your normal bills and on top of that an additional housing expense? It’s impossible. Luckily, in my situation, I had enough passive income to survive without having to maintain a schedule of showing up to routine places. If I wouldn’t have been this fortunate, I would have ended up in a shelter in a different state. Safe housing in itself is the hardest obstacle as a stalking victim. Eventually, I would love to set up a nonprofit to help others attain free shelter such as partnering with a hotel website to provide free temporary housing vouchers. Something along the lines of a win-win philanthropy based concept that would provide a safe sanctuary out of the reach of the danger.

What are your “5 things I wish someone told me about dating” and why. Please share a story or example for each.

1) Trust your intuition. I kept having horrible reoccurring nightmares while dating my ex. I would wake up in puddles of sweat. I knew something was off about him but I couldn’t pinpoint exactly what it was. Little did I know it was a muti-billion-dollar money laundering ring and my life was in jeopardy every day I walked outside my door. Trust your dreams to a degree because they are your subconscious. Trust your gut feelings because your soul has a way of picking up on the things that can be disguised.

2) Listen to how a partner observes the world. Do they view it as a horrible apocalypse that everyone is out to screw everyone over? If so then run! Peoples interpretation of reality is often a reflection of themselves to a degree. My ex would always say “humans are horrible creatures” and then even sometimes joked about killing them. This interpretation is not healthy or normal. It is an interpretation of a sociopath even if it is hidden within a clever joke.

3) Details matter. Do not overlook them! I was so caught up in my work life and managing other people I lost control of the most important thing to manage: my own personal life and all of the small things I conveniently glossed over for time sake. Does your partner have two phones? Do they only talk in an encrypted app? These little details that seemed easy to overlook at the time but ended up sealing the fate of my relationship and deeply scaring my life. The truth of everything was trying to slowly bubble to the surface but my clouded “too busy to inquire and start a battle” attitude ended up completely blindsiding me.

4) Boundaries are healthy. I was tempted into putting assets in my name such as a $300,000 luxury car in a car rental business that was actually a laundering scheme. I felt signing for a guy was over the top after only dating for only a year. What would a man who has endless money want with his girlfriend’s name anyways? Luckily, I declined. What would have happened if I did? Right now I could be that chick in cell block 9 answering these questions to a tape recorder in handcuffs. As a result of noticing a healthy boundary being crossed I’m not her.

5) Fear is all about control. Stay away from those who use it! Even before my ex started the alarming death threats he would use scare tactics by saying “You know you are really getting too old to start a new long term relationship and find a husband.” This should have been my red flag even if it was just conversational. Later, his fear strategies turned from covert chats to blatant ultimatums. At some point I stopped caring about if my ex’s threats of killing me were in fact going to end up real. To this date I’ve gotten over 20 different ways I’ll be murdered or tortured in a year. Waking up to “I’m going to slaughter your entire family and make it rain blood” is never a welcoming message. But what is it really? It’s just words. You can’t let the fear of something happening control what is actually happening. Take away this caring aspect and you have regained the control of what a stalker has over its victim.

If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be?

I would love to start a community of people who have experienced severe trauma that are working on living in the present. I know this sounds generic. However, I feel like being a victim is such a shameful process. The discussions about it are taboo. Only victims can really understand other victims. Also, biology in general is not on the side of the victim. Serve trauma literally rewires the brain and its neuropathways. Anything small relating to the trauma can trigger a full blown panic attack. Furthermore, the whole me too movement has just begun. People are just becoming okay with being victims. I would love to inspire people to move past a victim into the survivor. I’ve also noticed in my support groups most members cannot get past the initial trauma. They completely freeze up. They stop dating. They stop loving. They stop trying. I have been there forcing my feet just to hit the ground in the morning. Trust me, sometimes I think about the time my car almost got ran off the road. I was driving on the highway when I was unexpectantly blinded by some sort of white substance thrown on my windshield while a car was swerving into my lane, my phone was hacked shutting on and off by itself telling me it was logged into another location, and my ex was messaging me to call him — — every once in a while I think of this. Was this a death experience? Maybe. Was this traumatizing? Yes. But since the mishap, I’ve driven over 10,000 highway miles. Instead of going over the trauma again and again when I get in the car I try and stay present. I simply focus on what’s directly in front of me at that very second in time. Being able to drive again without thinking of being driven off the road taught me how to get my power back. In the present moment is where the power lies. Trauma in itself can become a recording that plays over and over again in your head. But is recording the current reality? No. Driving again is what inspired me to come up with this philosophy. Why not start a movement for trauma victims to focus on the road ahead? Its where the future lies if you are blessed enough to get there.

Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”?

Be like water my friend- Bruce Lee

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