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A Life Coach Admits: Goals Suck

They’re particularly troublesome when they float around without any foundation.


But there’s help.

So yeah, I said it, goals suck. Not what you were expecting from a life coach. If you need help getting over that, I’m a life coach, call me I can help. Let me start with today’s scenario to explain.

I wake up today thinking I wanted to get work done on my coaching business. What are my goals? I’ve got to get a program together, work social media, build awareness, yadda yadda yadda. Now I’m stressed. My heart rate is up. My brain is skittery. Focus is the last thing I have and yesterday’s headache is today’s slow rolling drumbeat of doom. I have slowly slid on the lenses of victimhood and the world is gray. But whyyyyyy? I have goooaaaallllssssss!

It’s because goals suck.

I know your brain is going bonkers over the missing pieces here. Let me help.

Goals suck when they float around without any foundation. My goals were vehicles sitting on a road with no gas and no map. My gasless goals were bricks. (Unlike the days when I have goals with gas and no map…that’s bumper cars.)

First, I take a breath and pause. Knowing how to make space inside your crazy head is a primary skill to learn. You can’t dance on a floor strewn with furniture and legos. I felt like Agador Spartacus in shoes…if you get that reference let me know and I’ll owe you a big hug and a kiss on the cheek.

Now I needed fuel. Fuel comes from values. If you don’t know what yours are, call me, we need to work together. In relation to my predicament, my values are 1) be of service, 2) be authentic, 3) humor, 4) compassion, 5) be sustaining and sustainable, 6) keep it simple. I had completely forgotten to check in with these and they are my top values in life, not just business.

Next I needed the map my intentions provide. Intentions grow out of values. Intentions are what happens when values dream. My intentions are to put my knowledge into product form so I know what I’m talking about when I tell people about my business.

Now I have gas and a map. Now I can look at destinations and start prioritizing. I know where to focus my radar and begin picking up information so I can get focused. A goal forms and some destinations appear on the map. Using my value of keep it simple, my priorities take shape and I know where to drive first.

And today the Stress Ninja kicks stress’ ass.

PS Pro Tip: I used my phone a friend superpower several times. Community rocks in all aspects of the process. There is no thing done with such difficulty as a thing done alone.


Originally published at www.risingtideslifecoaching.com on October 20, 2016.

Originally published at medium.com

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