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9 Lies you tell yourself that are preventing you from being the best you can be

Pushing past the inner struggle

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Most times our greatest enemy lies within.

Our inner conversation, no matter how small we think it is, has a big role to play in who we become and what we achieve.

A lot of people have a way of sabotaging their own careers and successes by the excuses and lies they keep feeding to themselves. What we unconsciously tell ourselves is more damaging to us than what someone else would ever say to us.

Worse still is that a lot of us have no idea we are even feeding ourselves destructive lies.

Maybe we’re afraid of success, maybe we don’t think we deserve it, or maybe we don’t think it’s possible.

Whatever the reason…

Once we get rid of all the lies, we will eventually start working towards getting what we deserve in life

Self-awareness is the first step you have to take towards making great change.

So what lies have you been telling yourself that have hindered your growth and achievements? Take a look at some of these and see if they sound familiar.

Am not good enough…

Have you ever heard of this thing that is referred to as self-esteem?

Without it, it’s easy to think you are not beautiful enough, worthy enough or even intelligent enough to be successful.

Here’s the thing, when we want to make a change, we start looking around at our options, and the other people who’ve already succeeded at it. The problem is, our minds tend to jump on all the reasons why they’ve succeeded, just to tell us why we can’t do the same.

We often make the mistake of comparing ourselves with others and therefore end up deciding that we do not have what it takes to succeed.

That is lie! We do. We are good enough.

The main thing standing in the way between you and reaching your goals is your mindset.

I can’t do this and that..

Ever found yourself thinking you can’t do something even though you have never tried it or had a go at it in your entire lifetime?

That is another lie.

Every successful person you look up to has probably failed too many times before reaching the pinnacle of their business or career achievements.

There is nothing you can’t do if you put your mind to it. It might be hard and may seem impossible but it can be done.

Again your mindset is at play here.

It needs to be perfect

We all have a few projects we want to work on, and a few desires we want to within ourselves that we want to be satisfied.

But most of us get greedy and unappreciative even before we receive them or achieve them, and want much more than what we deserve.

We don’t want to work our way to the top, we want the perfect job that will get us to the top smoothly. We want to get rich now with the ideas we have on our first try and we want to do it in the perfect conditions.

Everything just has to be perfect.

Well, that’s a wrong approach. Perfectionism is a sure way to never getting anywhere and remaining stuck. You need to work with what you have in the environment you are in.

I need to do it all in one huge step

“Who you become while you achieve something is more important than what you achieve.”

Have you ever heard of that?

There is a certain method you can use to forge yourself into a better person that can handle any huge tasks and achieve any huge goals that are put before them.

That method requires you to consistently make a thousand small steps. Key word –“Small”– because huge steps are intimidating and they suck the energy out of us and fill us with fear. So divide your goals into small steps, then into even smaller, until you have a list of simple tasks to do each day. And make them so easy and quick that it will be impossible for you to say no.

There is no overnight success story. Even the ones that seem so have a thousand steps behind the scenes that made them happen.

I’m too old

Well, are you still breathing?

Chances are if you are reading this, you are, and that means you can still make it happen. Anything you want to do, you can make it happen.

You still have a working mind and you still have time.

You’re never too old to learn. Don’t give up on your dreams of financial freedom just because you’re not in your early 20s anymore.

I will do it when I have the time

This is perhaps the biggest lie I hear most. One that I have told myself countless times.

Most people say they do not have the time to start a business or work on themselves and yet they have enough time to browse Facebook, Twitter or play video games and watch entertainment videos on YouTube when they are free.

If you can find the time to do that, then you have more than enough time to study what you love and to build up your business.

You might have less time than the next guy, but this is not a race. Even if you only make a small amount of progress every day you know you’re going to get there in the end.

I don’t have enough money

If something means something to you, you will find a way regardless of what obstacles stand in your way.

You don’t need money to become a millionaire or to actually make enough to have financial freedom.

Look at Richard Branson. He started Virgin Records as teenager, when he was flat broke. He’s now worth $4.9 billion. And he had dyslexia!

If a dyslexic teenager with no money can become a billionaire, then you can stop telling yourself that being broke is an excuse.

I don’t know where to start

Nobody knows where to start.

Nobody told Steve Jobs which step to take first. Neither did a fortune Teller whisper to Elon Musk how to start a Space company.

Successful people trust themselves, the universe, and they decide on a first step. There is no systematic step by step plan you have to follow that is handed down to everyone once you want to start working on something.

Do what you trust is the first step. You can actually even start from what you think is the second step and come back to do the first step.

In this age, you can even just google the first step.

If you want to see your dreams made real, you’ve got to stop telling yourself you don’t know where to start. And Just start!

I need to go to college to learn…

No, you need a college degree to get a conventional 9–5 job. You don’t need a college degree to learn arts, or how to program or how to be an entrepreneur.

You most certainly don’t need a college degree to educate yourself.

And they are a lot of things in this world that you need educate yourself on. A college degree is not the only way to learn what is best for you.

Look around you and you will see countless of people giving it their best and succeeding without a college degree.

Final thoughts…

Instead of filling your mind with some of the lies above, tell yourself the truth.

That you can be the best you can be if you decide to.

It’s sad to see so many people not achieving their goals because of the lies they tell themselves. I say that if you can still breathe you can still succeed.

Remember that the only thing standing in the way of your success is you.

Thanks for Reading 🙂

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