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7 Things about a Divorce You’ve Never Heard Of

Divorce comes up with a mixed reaction from both partners, and they may not know what to do after the decree has been made. Still, it is a torture to discuss break up issues even with close friends as you may never know how they perceive the whole idea. Many people will have reserved comments […]

Divorce comes up with a mixed reaction from both partners, and they may not know what to do after the decree has been made. Still, it is a torture to discuss break up issues even with close friends as you may never know how they perceive the whole idea. Many people will have reserved comments and end up concealing a lot of information that possibly, if one knew about them, then the separation would have been so much easier to overcome and move on fast to settle to the next course of life.

People may have tried to encourage the separating couple that ending their marriage is not the end of life. There will be more fun and freedom, and these are the apparent reasons that friends will try to console someone with but wait, let’s think of what has been ailing people most yet would have been a walk in the park if someone shared the information.

1.      Online divorce is an easy method of ending a marriage.

Earlier long, people used to go through the attorney way wholesomely, luckily enough, in the modern life and technology, there are new ways in which marriage can end in a short period and at a very reasonable cost.

Since this is only an emerging way of ending divorce, people may tend to fear to disclose online divorce, but mainly, if a marriage is uncontested, then, this could be a sure way of annulling the union that has hit the rocks.

The process is usually an easy one, whereby you only need to identify the service provider of the online divorce, sign up, pay the application fees and you get to access the forms after you are confirmed eligible to use the service.

This may sound somehow ambiguous, but it is a word that should keep spreading and save many people from the hustle of using the attorney to submit the divorce forms, which is a lengthy and expensive process. What is surprising enough is that you do not even have to leave your cozy sofa filing for a marriage break up!  You can use this link to learn more about the online divorce process.

2.   Your Family and Friends no longer associate with you.

Do you know that friends can treat you as a reject when you separate with your spouse? This may sound awkward, but in the real sense, it happens, and one cannot avoid it. At times friends behave like you have leprosy with you and will keep away from you like a plague. Others think that if it’s a lady, she is out to destroy the man in the house where the couples are still intact. No one will ever share with you such information, and this ends becoming a painful thing before you learn to control and get new friends.

3.   Your Body will be on fire for Sex urge after divorce.

When used to family life, one may take sex for granted to the extent that you no longer wish to have your partner around. This is not until you part ways and feel the sex urge burning in your life. You may think that you have become abnormal, wishing to have him/her around again to have an intimate attachment once more. People will never share with you such information, and if care is not taken, the healing process can take longer, or one may engage in a forced intimacy to cool down the urge. However, care should be taken, and it’s crucial to visit a counselor who could advise on the way forward before engaging in a new sex life. It’s only reasonable to be careful and not to involve oneself in a person whom you are not in love with before healing and giving the heart a chance to make individual decisions.

4.   Divorce becomes official after signing the Decree.

You may do all you want, spread all the news that you are divorced, but one thing for sure that people will never tell you is that you will be considered divorced after signing the Decree. The judge may not take two weeks as you may think of, as such, no matter whether you live together or not, the only time you will pronounce yourself single again is when you stand before the court of law for the judgment, and it’s considered over. This is when you realize that your spouse can ruin your sanity, confidence, and mess even your relationships when friends look at you, they see you as a failure and no longer wish to be in your company. This breaks your heart but had you heard about it before, then it becomes easy to manage the situation.

Follow this reference to learn more about divorce Decree.

5.      Document all the information

No one will remind you to document all the issues relating to your marriage. Mostly, you have been friends with your partner for over ten years and had earned all the trust, this can end up betraying your divorce preparations thinking that it is the same person you have confided a lot of information with. However, since divorce is a lifetime event, document all the records, including child custody, assets settlement, breaking of joint accounts which will give an overview of what is best for you at a particular time. With such information, even while filing for divorce, your mind will be clear of your expectations. If you consider online divorce, you will be able to answer questions in a more precise way.

6.   The courts do not care about the costs you incur.

In most cases, the attorney will help you push your divorce process but still mint dollars from your pockets. They do not care about your future after the Decree. People who are separating tend to go through a rigorous process which may end up draining their pockets not considering tomorrow.

It’s, therefore to be aware that there is a high cost involved in the entire process and especially when dealing with an attorney. All in all, never consider the attorney to act as a therapist. This will be another additional cost that you could avoid at all costs.

7.   Bringing up children alone is not a walk in the park.

If you are a custodial parent, some duties are a must attend to the children, and it becomes a challenge to handle children, feed, discipline them all by yourself. Sometimes you will long to get back to work on Monday morning and release the stress that you went through during the weekend.

When all this is said and done, life is all about yourself and the moment you become single, expect all sorts of rejection from people you thought would be there for you and consider being a lone ranger to allow time for healing. Within a short time, all this will be over, and you will start living peacefully once again.

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