We all meet that one person who creates butterflies in our stomach. You spend every waking moment together, talking on the phone, texting or sharing funny GIFs to laugh together. It gets to the point where you see yourself living a long full life together, believing this person may be the one. You eventually make plans to travel, taking your relationship to the next level. Weeks before leaving, things take a sour turn — leading to a break up. But plans were already made to travel together, so you start asking yourself “What do I do?”, “Do I cancel?”, “Should I just go?”.
You can already guess what may we may say but if you need any more convincing, here are seven (7) reasons why you should solo travel after a break up…
You get to spend time with yourself
Sometimes we put so much time to our relationship, forgetting our own individuality. This is your chance to re-learn how to be by yourself again. Solo traveling will help you re-discover things you used to enjoy, like to do, hobbies you forgot about and who you were before getting into the relationship.
You get to distract yourself a bit
Breakups are painful, intense and it sometimes can feel like the world is crashing down on you. You’ll be surrounded by new culture, cuisines and interesting people to keep you busy until you are ready to deal with the aftermath of your break up.
You get to take the trip you wanted
When traveling as a couple, you feel you have to factor your partner in every decision and compromise for the sake of the relationship. You may have wanted to go Amafi Coast in Italy but settled for London because your partner has already been there or just did not want to go. Being single now, you get to make your own decisions and travel the way you like.
You have time to refocus & grow
You have more time to channel your energy and mind to personal projects you are passionate about, ones you may have put aside to make time for your partner and for the good of the relationship. You can now figure out your priorities, goals, professional development and what you want next in your life — making plans to achieve them.
You will make new friends
Meeting people is one of the best reasons to solo travel. You will connect with people, like you, who are going through a breakup themselves and are using solo traveling to pick up the pieces. If the opportunity presents itself and you’re opened enough to share your story, you’ll feel better and can support each other — forming a strong bond.
Have time to emotionally heal
Solo traveling offers the opportunity to reflect on your former relationship, without the influence of other people’s opinions. Give yourself time to process your emotions clearly and open-heartedly. Be truthful to how the breakup made you feel and you’ll feel much better in the end.
Teaches you to love yourself again and to move forward
After processing the good, bad, and ugly of your former relationship, you can truly move on and start to live your best life. You’ll realize how important inner happiness is. You will be in a better position to figure what you want in your next relationship and how it fits the life you want or if you even want to be in one and decide to stay single for some time. There is nothing wrong with choosing yourself as a priority and being a little selfish. Only you can make decisions that make you happy in the end and live life at your own pace.