If you ask many many girls what they want from a man, they often reply a gentleman, in some form or another… Now I know that manners aren’t very fashionable right now, especially in an era of cell phones and impersonality, but the essence of gentlemanliness is well connected to manners. And the essence of modern manners is making other people feel comfortable — at ease… and that’s important in business and pleasure.
Maya Angelou famously said, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Putting others at ease, making them feel good, as well as the ability to feel comfortable in different situations, are great skills to hone — and if you’re looking to increase your gentlemanliness, here are six tips to making people feel good around you, and yourself:
- Listen more, speak less, show genuine interest in what people are saying, and ask thoughtful questions based on what they are saying (without constantly interrupting them.)
- Passion for life is so attractive – have you ever met anyone that has been in their job for too long, and seems tired from life or their relationship, bitter or downtrodden…the opposite of passionate! A person with passion for life has a natural twinkle in their eye, a curiosity for living that drives them to be their best selves, and is magnetic to be around.
- Be self assured and humble, and don’t always try and be right or show off everything you know.
- Be more open minded and less judgemental, who knows what each encounter may hold!
- Find at least one thing you like or appreciate about everyone and every situation you encounter, and don’t be afraid to express it – tune yourself to find positives.
- Listen to how you speak to yourself, and to others, and feel how you treat yourself and others…are you supportive, respectful, joyful, thankful to yourself and everyone you encounter?
“I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious” —Albert Einstein
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