Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.
— T. S. Eliot
Oprah has said that if you don’t know what is your life purpose and direction in life, you should go and figure it out before doing anything else. Without living intentionally, we’re like leaves drifted aimlessly by the wind. Without any specific direction, we go into a new day with the hope that it will be better than the day before.
It can be challenging to find the right balance between living intentionally and living on auto-pilot. More often than not, we tend to go from one extreme to another. Living without intention makes us feel empty, drained, and shallow.
While living intentionally brings all the colors into our life. We feel deeply grounded, inspired, and fulfilled. With every step, we take we know what the intention behind is, therefore, we exactly know what we want and what we don’t want.
Yet even living intentionally can become a doctrine and blind us. Anything that we follow blindly becomes our own highest judge. Let’s say that if you believe that being a vegan is the best choice then you must inevitably judge those who aren’t. Yet when we judge we become less happy because it goes against our very own nature which is love. Each time when we offset the balance (by judging), the excessive energy will manifest in our life.
A balanced way of living intentionally creates flow in your life. As a result, you feel very deeply purpose-driven and focus on meaningful things.
Before starting to bring more intention into your life, it’s good to start to look at your fears. Everyone has something that holds them back from doing what they love. Find what it is and face it.
Becoming aware of your own shadow parts is the only way how to find freedom to do what you love to do. So let’s look at some of the most common fears of living intentionally.
When you live more on auto-pilot, it’s natural to feel lost and even annoyed deep inside. The persistent irritation comes from the fact that you unconsciously know that you’re wasting time by doing unimportant things. Part of you feels trapped by all the responsibilities and to-do lists while another part wants you to start doing what you really want. This creates inner discomfort which subsequently penetrates all other areas of your life.
It’s difficult to change your life from day-to-day because it also influences those around you. For this reason, many people just don’t change and wait for their life circumstances to change by themselves. They give power over their lives and happiness into hands of someone else which makes them feel as victims. Although this kind of fear is understandable, there is a moment in everyone’s life, when they wake up and feel like it was enough of surviving, it’s time to truly live.
Sometimes you’re afraid that by bringing more intention into your life, you’ll lose the approval of others and perhaps also their love. More often than not this fear is unjustified and if this happens then what is the purpose of keeping those people in your life anyway?
These were just a few signs that you don’t live your life up to your own design. If you can identify with some of them, please, know that it’s fine. Your whole life is a journey, it’s not about a perfection. It’s only about how you feel on your own life journey. Do you feel happy and fulfilled? If so then I’m very happy for you. If not, what is holding you back?
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Originally published at medium.com