5 Ways to Have a More Productive Life

I went on the beach with family and friends, it was a Saturday and the beach was so crowded as we were about to step out from the car, a lady’s car broke down on the main way. It resulted in quite a sudden traffic. The guy directly behind kept sounding his horn and shouting […]

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I went on the beach with family and friends, it was a Saturday and the beach was so crowded as we were about to step out from the car, a lady’s car broke down on the main way. It resulted in quite a sudden traffic. The guy directly behind kept sounding his horn and shouting at her to move her car to the walk path so he could move, but she kept complaining that the car couldn’t start. He kept on barking at why she drove out with the car if it had issues, I could see how the situation was taking a toll on him because he was really stressed out and frustrated by the situation.

The amazing act that caught my attention was when a guy parked behind the “stressed-out guy” stepped out of his car, walked over to her, asked her to open the car trunk so he could help her out. He did what he could do and moved the car to the side and with that people could move their cars.

This got me thinking; most times we have plans of what we want to accomplish on daily bases, but the unforeseen can happen and disorganize our plan(s) or cause a setback. In such situations, what we do determines how our day will end. Will we keep complaining and criticizing like the guy directly behind the lady? Or instead, be like the other guy who just walked up, fixed the obstacle and moved on.

I have compiled a list of ways you can prevent nagging over issues from ruining your day:


Like the scenario above he approached the lady and tried to figure out what he could do, if he had chosen to do the opposite by sitting down in his car, or go on a ‘road rage’ like the other man, that car would still be stuck in the same spot.

According to Dr. Travis Brad-berry, who quoted in his book; How Complaining Rewires Your Brain for Negativity, “repeated complaining rewires your brain to make future complaining more likely”. So over time no matter what happens to you whether positive or negative, you will still complain and that’s how people will perceive you. Nobody likes to work with a negative person.


We tend to neglect our health in pursuit of the demands of life. Your health is your responsibility.  Whenever our body is stressed in the form of headache, muscles tightness, high blood pressure or digestive issue, studies have shown that it can affect the brain. (Read more

This study shows that complaining shrinks the hippocampus, which is the area of the brain that is critical to problem solving and intelligent thoughts. Therefore next time you want to complain, criticize or blame, think of what it does to the brain.

It is advisable to eat nutritious food, sleep for at least 6-8 hours in a day and make out time for exercise to keep your body and mind in check.


Rick Warren once said; “the greatest tragedy is not death, but a life without a purpose”. If you can’t identify your purpose, there is a good chance that you will be very good at complaining.

Steve Maraboli was also quoted as saying; “you were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self; to live out your purpose and to do it courageously”. A plan without a purpose is a mere wish.

Imagine what you want your future to be in every aspect and then work every day towards that distant vision or goal.


Whatever activities you enjoy doing, be it biking, hiking, gardening, reading books, or even cooking, find time for it. But you must not compromise on your daily priorities.

You must focus on your priorities and take control of your day by having a to-do list for the day which keeps you organized and provides a direction on how your day should be.


You may ask; why should I distance myself from complainers? To that, I’ll answer: It is very important because our brains naturally or unconsciously mimic the mood of those around us, especially those we spend time with. This is called NEURONAL MIRRORING

Focus on how to improve yourself and do not compare yourself with others. The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.

Generally, if we have to complain at all, we should adopt the “positive complaining” or “effective complaining” approaches whereby we don’t sit around and admire the problem, but actually do something about it.

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