Yes, adulting may be a cliched and overused term in modern times, but the concept has been around for generations. Only recently have we coined and pinpointed the dazed struggle that so many young adults find themselves in once venturing into the alleged “real world.”
At the same time, because so many of us struggle with that infamous imposter syndrome, it’s hard to know if we’re actually killing the game- or just acting like a complete and utter fraud waiting to get discovered.
You Have a Routine (And It Kind of Grounds You)
Maybe you meal-prep on Sundays. Maybe you hit up the grocery store every Wednesday. Maybe Monday is spin class, and Tuesday is boot camp. Whether it’s the time you wake up or the food you eat or the schedule you follow, you know you’re adulting when you can stick to a routine (and actually enjoy it).
What’s more? You also know you’re adulting when you gain satisfaction from those seemingly boring tasks like filling the gas tank or (gasp) cleaning the toilet. Yes, adulting on the surface can look somewhat boring, but you find comfort in the expectations and predictability.
You Feel Pride Paying For Boring Things
Whether it’s your auto payment or insurance policy, having a sense of financial independence feels fantastic. Most people enjoy purchasing the fun stuff- the concert tickets, the hottest clothes, the new phone- but true adulting means that you’re in acceptance that the “boring necessities” come first.
Furthermore, you also know you’re adulting when you can distinguish those needs from wants.
You Can Set Boundaries
We’ve all enabled toxic people in our lives- whether it was in intimate relationships, family dynamics, or co-worker drama. You know you’re adulting when you can actually assert your feelings and set appropriate boundaries to reduce the level of chaos in your life. What’s more? You respect yourself for setting this structure- even if you don’t always achieve the desired outcome.
You Know How To Engage in Self-Care
And, no, this doesn’t mean that you simply zone out in front of the TV on another Netflix binge. It also doesn’t mean drinking copious amounts of alcohol or overworking yourself into oblivion.
Adulting means knowing that you will encounter stress on a regular basis. However, it also means that you value the development and implementation of healthy coping tools to recharge and regroup your thinking.
You Have Realistic Goals For Your Future
Adulting means that you have a general plan of action. You know what you want, but what’s more is that you know how to take the baby steps to achieve those goals.
Sure, you may not have a detailed five-year-plan, but you can honestly (and with integrity) provide a baseline for what you’d like to see yourself accomplish.
What’s more? You know that while it’s possible to have most anything, it’s virtually impossible to have everything. Priorities matter, and if you’re adulting, then you already know how to identify and value those priorities.