5 Proven Ways to Increase Self-Love

We all need someone to love, but we must also feel comfortable in our own bodies and learn how to love ourselves.

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5 ways to build self-love
5 ways to build self-love

In order for us to be happy, we must learn to appreciate to love ourselves. Love can be a powerful thing, but the absence of love can be devastating for anyone. We all need someone to love, but we must also feel comfortable in our own bodies and learn how to love ourselves.

Below we will tell you about 5 proven ways that you can start to love yourself more.

1.    Set Your Own Goals

Setting your own weekly or monthly goals will lead you to a path of self-appreciation. This can be extremely important because as soon as you start following an idea, it can lead you to many great things. You must respect your body’s needs, and that means cutting down on unhealthy food and starting to give your body the desired attention.

This can be achieved by giving your body the essential stuff like healthy food and nice clothes (something that will make you feel comfortable in your own skin). By following what your body needs, and not what it wants, you can get back on the path of promoting self-care and well-being.

Set monthly or weekly goals, and every time you finish them, reward yourself. This will make you enjoy it even more, and a sense of achievement will start overwhelming you, and you cannot wait for the reward itself.

2.    Put Yourself In Other’s Shoes

Love and treat yourself like you would love and treat your friend, lover, or family. Stop helping others when they do you wrong, and do something about it.  Every time someone messes up, ask yourself whether they would do the same if you were in their shoes. Start controlling the situation every time someone takes advantage of your trust or love.

3.    Ditch Those Who Are Bad for You

We all have people in our lives that act as bad influence for us. These are people characterized as toxic, manipulative, unapologetic, and they can be friends, family, and even those who we love the most. You need to distance yourself from these people as it will only benefit you. No one wants to be controlled by evil, manipulative, control freaks who only wish to drain the life out of us. Achieving this will lead you to a path of self-respect and independence.

However, we also need people that will be supportive, and studies have shown that you need eight types of friends in order to be truly happy. These are:

  • The Builder: The motivator
  • The Champion: The person who will love you for who you are
  • The Collaborator: The one with similar interests
  • The Companion: The one that you will always ask for help
  • The Connector: Someone that will expand your social life
  • The Energizer: The person who will make you laugh
  • The Mind Opener: someone who will take the risk and encourage you
  • The Navigator: a mentor that will guide you

4.    Praise Yourself

Never forget to praise yourself, because that is the first step on the road to self-love. And don’t be shy about it, do it all the time! Do it every morning when you are getting ready, and do it every night before going to bed. Name at least 3 things that you love about yourself, and praise yourself for it.

5.    Take Better Care

We cannot love ourselves if we don’t love our body. While we do understand that looks are not important, but when you think about it, are they? Not a single person will complain after losing a huge amount of weight. Quite the opposite, it will feel like a mountain off their chest.

Move more often, exercise, sleep at least 8 hours a day and reduce the amount of caffeine you consume on a daily bases. This can all lead to a healthier life and a stronger body.

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