5 Critical Steps To Becoming Your Authentic Self

Nothing is more draining than trying to be someone or something you’re not.

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If you’re forcing yourself to fit into an unrealistic “image” because you think that’s what your family, friends, significant other, or colleagues expect, you’re going to burn out fast. Embrace and love the real you–and let him or her breakthrough the concrete barrier.

Authenticity is a buzzword that you may be sick of hearing yet it’s a really strong concept wrapped into one single word. That one word describes the level of honesty and truthfulness you have with yourself. If you are truly authentic, their true personality will shine through in every aspect of your life; When you are authentic, people will notice a shift in you, a grounded quality and they will feel the difference.

So, how does one become authentic?

Identify your core values

Being authentic starts with knowing who you are. Knowing your core values is the cornerstone of stepping into your authentic self.

How to figure out your values.. ask yourself…What is most important to you? How will you express that in your relationships, family life, at work and in the business world? They inform all of your decisions. From your work to your partner, to the house you buy, to how you raise your children.

Incorporating these values into your life will attract the people and situations that are heartfelt.

“Find your voice” and how to know what that actually means…

Finding one’s voice doesn’t only pertain to using your actual vocal cords or learning how to sound smart. There’s an unmistakable power in knowing and being your real self.

Be Direct.

Another aspect of finding your voice to tap into your authentic self is to speak your truth. This may mean pushing out of your comfort zone. Authentic sharing is the goal, not being insensitive, critical or aggressive just for the sake of being direct. There’s no advantage to hurting people’s feelings.

Feel comfortable in your own skin.

This concept is about confidence. We know that confidence is the cornerstone of success, yet being confident is a hard one for many people. It’s often the feeling of not being good enough. When I was younger, I was an extremely shy and introverted person. I felt awkward and sometimes invisible. When I really began to accept myself, and feel good in my skin, my confidence started to shift. Once you understand and accept your real self, get comfortable with it.

And finally, don’t think you have to be something you’re not. Try something easy, like only wearing clothing you feel comfortable in. This is an outer measurement, but it’s a great start to feel good physically throughout the day. Do what feels easy and natural. Loving who you are and showing it to the world will land you success.

Conserve Your Energy & Protect your time

When you are overwhelmed with to-do’s and obligations, you may not be able to tune into your authentic self. We are bombarded with offers and emails coming at you. Your to-do list continues to grow and can be distracting and cause unnecessary anxiety. Filter the whirlwind of advice coming at you online and minimize the bombardment. Some key suggestions are

  1. Set up boundaries on computer time
  2. Develop a set-in-stone morning routine.
  3. Take the time to find the real you. Someone you like and want to hang out with.

I help people step into their authentic selves. If you are in transition or setback, want to find love and feel confident about yourself, recovering from a breakup or divorce; discovering your authentic self is the key to success in moving through difficult challenges in life.

As a Certified Life Coach, CPCC and Master Neuro-linguistic Programming Practitioner, MNLP, I can help you create the life you know you can have. Want to talk? Schedule your free coaching session. 

This article was originally published at www.jadelifecoach.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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