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3 Tips on Dating an Extrovert when You are an Introvert

Do you believe in opposite attracts? It's interesting but it does work to certain extent. If you are dating someone with an opposite personality, then this article is for you. You'll learn three great tips on how to cope with people unlike you.

People always say opposite attract. In my opinion, it does work; however, it must be built on the certain common ground. As I am a firm believer in the Law of Attraction ‘like attracts like’, hence you will only attract people who are similar like you. If you are thinking from that angel, opposites attract seems impossible. But in fact, it is not true. Despite the differences in the personalities, if they do share the same values, life views and beliefs, they will be drawn to each other too.

If you are an introvert and you like someone with an opposite personality like yours, it should not be a deal-breaker. Even though there might be some challenges, but which relationship does not?  

The key to a happy introvert-extrovert relationship is to have open communication and have your own life and interests. But, there are millions of such couples who do make it happen and are quite happy in their relationships. Here are three great tips on how to make such a relationship work with ease:

It is Okay to Say No 

First and foremost, it is important to Be Yourself. You have the right to live the life you want to. Therefore, don’t force yourself to accept things you have no interest of.

When comes to dating, if you are dating a person with an extrovert personality, it is absolutely okay not to want to engage in activities with them sometime if you are not interested. But don’t take it as an excuse to isolate yourself from his or her life. 

Life is all about experience and expansion. You don’t have to force yourself for certain activities you are not interested. But on the other hand, also give yourself a chance to experience things you never have done before. 

Your partner will appreciate the gesture that you took the step to try. It doesn’t matter if you want to do it again or not, but it tells your partner you are putting effort. 

 It’s important to spend quality time together and learn more about each other.

Make Sure You have a Life Outside Your Relationship

I always advise couples to have their own life outside relationships. You are independent individuals when your partner is not around. It’s essential to have your own hobbies, interest and friends.

Especially if you are introvert, you won’t be that expressive, but you do have something you are interested in right? So expand your interest, spend the time to work on your hobbies and interest and enjoy your own time without your partner.

Imagine, if you are only going to work and coming home, while your partner is going out with friends and have an energetic life, you are going to start resenting him. 

So balance your life, spend time with your family, friends and on the activities you like are important to build a healthy relationship.

Create Win-Win Situations

You two have completely different personalities. It’s not fair to ask either one to follow the other completely. Therefore compromising is the best way to go. 

Compromising is also essential for any relationship, and you need to remember that being an introvert is not a weakness. You might not be good at speaking, but if you are a good listener, your partner might come to you first for any advice or when he might be feeling low.

Instead of retreating into a cave, you should incorporate into situations where you feel comfortable. Also, talk to your partner about how you feel, and you will be surprised how strong you have made your relationship by doing.

Conclusion:

You don’t have to be the same to love each other. But you do need to share common values and beliefs, as those will be your compass in life. Attraction is an amazing force, being with someone who has completely opposite personality can be really fun sometimes. The key here is to learn and understand each other more, shower your partner with your love and kindness.

Have a blissful relationship!

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