Life Balance, what is it? How do you get it? Is it a myth or something you can achieve in your life?
There is much talk today about life balance, family-life balance, and work-life balance. I’ve even heard someone call it “work-life integration.” Whatever you call it, it seems like its something everyone is striving to achieve. And many are beating themselves up because they can’t seem to figure it out or get it just right.
As a speaker, author, entrepreneur, a wife and a mother of five, the question I get asked most often is how in the world do I find the time and energy to do all the things that I do. Between all my projects and different business endeavors, how do I still find time to show up at my children’s sporting events and take care of my house and other family responsibilities? Let me tell you, it’s not always easy and sometimes, I don’t get it right.
Like you, I too am constantly trying to figure this thing out and to strike a satisfying and meaningful balance in my life. I’m often torn between what I need to do for your business, what I want to do for myself, and what I have to do for others? In other words, I’m torn between what I should do, what I can do, when I can do it, and sometimes whether I can do it at all!
But I’ve learned a thing or two along this sometimes bumpy ride, and a few strategies that I want to help you find your unique life balance. But before we jump in, let me share my definition of balance.
First, balance is not about wearing a cape with a large emblem on your chest. Finding balance does not mean figuring out how to be in all places at all times. Nor is it about trying to spend equal time in every area of your life, yet that is what many of us try to do and we drive ourselves crazy! When you spread yourself too thin, you put unnecessary pressure on yourself that will only lead to frustration and, quite frankly, delirium. Instead, balance is all about making choices. Choices about where you spend your time and attention and choices about what you are willing to give up. That’s right, you can’t do everything. There, I said it!
The following simple strategies can help you carve out a meaningful life and strike that balance you’ve been looking for:
So back to the original question, How do I find balance in my life to do all of the things that I do? The answer is simple,
One, I work at it every day. I make time in my life for all of the projects and people that mean the most to me. And two, I adhere to a daily schedule that reflects what’s important to me.
Do I miss out on events and activities? Absolutely! I realize that I can’t do it all, but I can choose what I do. Do I always get it right? No, there are times when I fall short or I have to make adjustments or reset my priorities. For instance, If my husband tells me that I’m spending too much time on a new project, that might be my queue to make some adjustments. But again, just like you, I am in control of my time and attention.
There is no magic pill or secret to finding work-life balance or family-life balance, and there is no one-size-fits-all solution because balance is unique. While I can share my tips and strategies, your individual balance will come down to what your needs and priorities are and what matters most to you in your life. Be intentional and make time in your life, for all of the people and the things that matter to you most.” And to achieve balance, you have to streamline, prioritize and make some cuts.
And remember, balance is not about trying to spend equal time in every area of your life. Instead, it’s about streamlining, prioritizing, making choices and adjustments that work for you and your unique life situation. Don’t compare yourself to me or anyone else. No one has it all together. And we all have to work at it every single day.
Originally published at www.tamarahartley.com