3 Points of Resistance That Are Keeping Us Small in Life and Business

Learning to overcome the emotions that are holding you back

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“Resistance”—even the word feels heavy, as if my fingers are dragging across the keyboard to type it. But, we all experience it in one way or another and it’s keeping so many people from leveling up in business– and it’s definitely keeping us from sharing our creative gifts and talents.

I’ve been in book publishing for over 16 years and in that time I’ve worn many hats.  I’ve witnessed new authors, speakers and teachers, as well as veteran talent, face the same challenges when launching new products and taking their businesses in different directions. 

I run my own consulting company for aspiring and published authors now, and I’ve seen first-hand the ways in which we unconsciously defeat ourselves.  I’ve been able to have truly intimate conversations with clients and thought leaders that have incredible messages to share in service of the greater good. From doctors and healers, to kick-ass astrologers and nutritionists—I’ve worked with people at the top of their game—and those just beginning.

From all of those relationships and projects (including my own!), I’ve identified three key points of resistance that keep people from moving forward, taking risk, and fully stepping into their power.

They are:

  1. Overwhelm
  2. Vulnerability
  3. Comparison

You’ll notice that each point of resistance is emotional—not skill based.  And I bet if you looked inward at what may be holding you back from fulfilling your dream—career or personal—you’ll probably feel all three. 

Overwhelm is an obvious one. Where do I beginWho do I need to talk toWhere do I find the roadmap? It’s all of the questions that leave us feeling like it may be too much work to even BEGIN.  If we can make the commitment to establish a structure, schedule time to explore and hold ourselves accountable for putting one foot in front of the other—we’re already winning. Just. Keep. Going.

Vulnerability—this one hits us in the gut and heart equally.  It’s the fear of saying yes to something BIG. It’s the fear of exposing ourselves in a new way.  It’s the fear of truly being seen.

I see this one a lot in my work because I coach and consult with non-fiction, mission-based authors– so many of whom have a personal story tied to the work they do. Many of the closest people in their inner circle don’t even know of their desires to be of service through their experiences. It’s a big feeling to overcome—and I’m not sure “overcoming” it is even the goal.  

Vulnerability can be a great emotion when it’s helping us create connection—but the downside is based in fear—and that doesn’t serve us. If we can sit with this intense emotion and see how we can use it for good—how we can be of service to others through our work—then we can move forward rooted in faith. For me, if something scares the crap out of me—it’s most likely EXACTLY what I should be doing. I have to remind myself to push forward.

Comparison is the last of the three—and it’s absolute human nature. But the best creators, artists, writers, entrepreneurs—they don’t waste too much time worrying if they’re worthy. Scoping out what else is out there is certainly good brand and product research, but not starting because something or someone out there may be similar? No way. It’s a trap. It’s keeping you small, and I want you to know that your experiences, your stories and your creative talents have value. Keep doing YOU.

We all can do hard things–you’ve heard that. So, don’t let resistance hold you back from your greatness. Whether it’s your book, a new business, or a program you dream of doing—don’t wait for the perfect moment. Just start doing it. Progress over perfection—always.

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