You shouldn’t treat reading books like a sport.
Saying you read 100 books in a year doesn’t mean anything.
Saying you learned something that gave you a crucial insight, altered the way you think about the world, or made you better at your business or profession means everything.
I read because there’s a lot to know. Once you get into the habit of reading you’ll realize you’ll never learn everything you want to learn or read everything you want to read.
The point of reading — for me at least — is to absorb the energy of the authors and use it to make my life better.
I found reading at a point where my life wasn’t going well. In either a direct or indirect way, books helped lift me out of depression and laziness, gave me the confidence to pursue my dreams, and helped me reach more people with my work.
Out of all the books I’ve read, these are the ones that stuck with me or benefited my life most. If you have any recommendations please send them my way, because I believing in buying any book worth buying.
Top lesson learned: Set your life up in a way that benefits from the world’s ever-changing nature, instead of trying to fit an imperfect world into your cookie cutter of belief.
“The irony of the process of thought control: the more energy you put into trying to control your ideas and what you think about, the more your ideas end up controlling you.”
Top lesson learned: Learn your way to the top. You can overcompensate for being less talented than others by becoming a learning machine. Learn from multiple disciplines to avoid “domain dependence,” which is the inability to recognize the way different disciplines are woven into one another, e.g., sexual relationships and economics.
“Spend each day trying to be a little wiser than you were when you woke up. Day by day, and at the end of the day-if you live long enough-like most people, you will get out of life what you deserve.
Top lesson learned: Have the courage to think for yourself, and the balls to make long-term plans and follow them.
“Higher education is the place where people who had big plans in high school get stuck in fierce rivalries with equally smart peers over conventional careers like management consulting and investment banking. For the privilege of being turned into conformists, students (or their families) pay hundreds of thousands of dollars in skyrocketing tuition that continues to outpace inflation. Why are we doing this to ourselves?
Top lesson learned: The only way to defeat resistance is doing the work. You have to do the work every day to “turn pro.” Switching from amateur to pro happens when you switch your mindset — nothing else determines that transition.
“Our job in this life is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.”
Top lesson learned: An asset is something that puts money in your pocket consistently. Anything else is an expense or a liability.
“If you’re the kind of person who has no guts, you just give up every time life pushes you. If you’re that kind of person, you’ll live all your life playing it safe, doing the right things, saving yourself for something that never happens. Then, you die a boring old man.
Top lesson learned: Live in reality. Stop getting mad at the world and other people for the way they are — you can’t change those things. You can only change your perception.
“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”
Top lesson learned: History repeats itself. Look to the past to see what’s going to happen in the future, because the same cycles occur over and over again.
“History reports that the men who can manage men manage the men who can manage only things, and the men who can manage money manage all.”
Top lesson learned: Every pursuit in life is like lifting weights. Reps. Reps. Reps. The more you practice the better you get, regardless of the skill or venture.
“What is the point of being on this Earth if you are going to be like everyone else?”
Top lesson learned: Individual freedom and the goals of society are antithetical to one another.
“Civilized man has exchanged some part of his chances of happiness for a measure of security.”
Top lesson learned: You need to be brash — even a bit delusional — to achieve extraordinary outcomes.
“When people say no to me I just act like I didn’t hear them.”
Top lesson learned: We’re all controlled by our own biases to a certain degree. Knowing this will not only help you be more persuasive, but it will help you understand the world around you.
“The idea of potential loss plays a large role in human decision making. In fact, people seem to be more motivated by the thought of losing something than by the thought of gaining something of equal value.”
Top lesson learned: People share stuff that makes them look good. Social currency drives word of mouth.
“When we care, we share.”
Top lesson learned: Correcting people because you think it makes you look smart actually makes you look arrogant and makes the other people feel bad. If you’re truly clever, you don’t have to show off how clever you are.
“You can’t win an argument. You can’t because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it.”
Top lesson learned: You can cultivate the ability to stay level-headed under pressure, and it might be the most important skill you can possess.
“It’s okay to be discouraged. It’s not okay to quit.”
Top lesson learned: Until you’re able to manage yourself, you won’t be able to manage other people or projects well. Self-awareness and inner game are the true keys to success.
“Successful careers are not planned. They develop when people are prepared for opportunities because they know their strengths, their method of work, and their values.”
Top lesson learned: Being great at one thing is better than being poor/mediocre at several. You shouldn’t wear multitasking as a badge of honor because it’s a sign of poor focus and low-quality output.
“When you see someone who has a lot of knowledge, they learned it over time. When you see someone who has a lot of skills, they developed them over time. When you see someone who has done a lot, they accomplished it over time.When you see someone who has a lot of money, they earned it over time. The key is over time.”
Top lesson learned: Your tastes, goals, and options will change in the future. Trying to predict them exactly is futile. Instead, work on finding meaning in what you do right now, and talk to people who are where you want to be and ask them what it’s like.
“Thinking about the future is so pleasurable that sometimes we’d rather think about it than get there.
Top lesson learned: Focus on gradual happiness by celebrating the progress you make during the journey, instead of focusing on the end result.
“We get more pleasure from making progress toward our goals than we do from achieving them because, asShakespeare said, “Joy’s soul lies in the doing.”
Top lesson learned: To become the best at what you do, you have to be willing to go there when others won’t — in your training, your learning, your discipline, and your commitment.
“Talk never goes up in price, it’s always free, and you usually get what you pay for.”
Top lesson learned: Your imagination (or lack thereof) determines your future — nothing else. To succeed, you have to unlock the door of possibility in your own mind.
“Jeff does a couple of things better than anyone I’ve ever worked for,” one executive told Stone. “He embraces the truth. A lot of people talk about the truth, but they don’t engage their decision-making around [it] … The second thing is that he is not tethered by conventional thinking … he is bound only by the laws of physics. He can’t change those. Everything else, he views as open to discussion.”
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Originally published at medium.com