My life drastically changed after I became a mom. Some great changes, some not so great changes. Having twins took up so much time and energy, that I unconsciously put my own wants and needs on the back burner. And that eventually led to me having a breakdown.
Putting yourself on hold is okay, temporarily, but the problem was that I never took myself off of the back burner.
Becoming a martyr for my kids, in a sense, eventually caused me to have the breakdown. Like a legit, in bed, not-getting-dressed-for-days, breakdown.
And, being that hindsight is 20/20, I now see exactly what led to me hitting rock bottom.
GUYS, do you hear what I am telling you?! Please, please, please invest in yourself. Time, money, energy. All of that. Like, right now.
These habits don’t really even seem that bad on their own. But, the combination of all of these habits compounded with time, is what ultimately led to the breakdown.
If it wasn’t for one person who urged me to get into counseling, I would still be settling for less.
We all need someone to validate our feelings. To assure us that we ARE doing a good job. To be louder than our inner critic. To hold us accountable when we take the easy road instead of the necessary road.
And, the good news is that my breakdown actually became a break-through.
To be honest, it wasn’t an easy journey. However, it got me here. And, here is so much better than there.
I want you to think about one thing that you can do today that can help you to reconnect with your identity outside of being a mom, without the guilt. Because you are a great mom. You deserve to feel good about that. And, most of all, I don’t want you to end up where I did.
Originally published at www.bridgettepetrino.com on November 19, 2016.
Originally published at medium.com